How to Set Healthier Technology Boundaries

In a world where screens are part of nearly every moment, taking time to reflect on how we use technology is more important than ever—especially for families with teens. The goal isn’t to eliminate tech but to create boundaries that support healthier habits, better focus, and stronger connections.

• Start by thinking of yourself as a tech coach, not a tech cop. Instead of policing screen use, guide your teen in developing awareness and balance. This is especially important for neurodivergent kids, where trust and structure can make a big difference.
• Establish phone-free zones in your home. Designating mealtimes or family outings as device-free encourages presence and genuine connection. Use these times to reconnect without distractions.
• Keep digital safety part of your regular conversations. When stories come up in the news or online, use them as a way to talk about real consequences and smart digital choices. These moments help teens build awareness and confidence in how they navigate technology.
• If you haven’t already, check in on screen habits as a family. You might be surprised at what comes up when everyone looks at how much time they’re spending on devices and what kinds of boundaries feel good. This reflection can lead to better habits for everyone.
• Create clear, manageable limits around screen time. Decide on consistent times to power down, like after 9 PM or during dinner. Most phones now have built-in tools to help monitor and manage usage, like Screen Time (iOS) or Digital Wellbeing (Android).
• Model healthy communication, both online and off. Let your teen hear you on the phone having a thoughtful conversation. Remind them that not every text needs an instant response, and that tone can be hard to read in messages.
• Most importantly, keep the door open. Teens are still figuring things out and will make mistakes. If they know they can come to you without fear of judgment, they’ll be more likely to ask for help when they really need it.

Technology isn’t going anywhere—but with the right approach, it can be a more intentional and positive part of daily life.